Big Momma’s House
14 Maret 2010 oleh arthurfitzgerald1985|
IMDB rating: 4.60 Plot: FBI agent Malcolm Turner is known best for being a brilliant, master of disguise. Malcolm’s latest assignment sends him to small-town Georgia, where he’s assigned to trap a brutal bank robber (and a recent prison escapee) who they suspect will be coming down to visit his ex-girlfriend Sherry and her son. Malcolm sets up a stakeout across from the home of a larger-than-life southern matriarch known as Big Momma, who’s about to be visited by Sherry. It’s a simple plan, but there’s one big problem: Unbeknownst to Sherry, Big Momma has unexpectedly left town. So Malcolm, decides to impersonate the cantankerous Southern granny. Using a few tricks of disguise, he completely transforms himself into Big Momma, even taking on the corpulent septuagenarian’s everyday routine-from cooking soul food to delivering babies to “testifying” at the local church. In the mean time, Malcolm starts falling for Sherry, who may or may not be hiding some stolen cash. Now, Malcolm/Big Momma must somehow find a way to nab his criminal and the girl. |
Actors: Lawrence Martin,Giamatti Paul,Washington Jascha,Howard Terrence,Anderson Anthony,Wright Carl,Cedric the Entertainer,Action,Crime,Comedy,
Am I a horrible person?
Do you think I’m a horrible person? My nephew has autism, adhd, and retardation and there are days I can’t stand him. I’ve tried. I know it’s not his fault, but he’s horrible. You can’t have anything. He tears up everything, literally. He broke the printer to my cpu. He lost my stepdad’s teeth. He tears up anything you give him. He climbs on top of things to get things you have put out of his reach. The refrigerator has to be locked at all times or he plays in it and wastes all the food. He climbs on counter tops and makes food rain all over the house. Oatmeal, flour, cornmeal, cereal, rice, noodles,…etc. Not an exageration, I spent $200 on groceries and he wasted it all in a day. He’s constantly taking off his diaper and playing in his own poop or pooping all over the house. He plays with himself constantly. You have to fight him to cook dinner. If you leave the kitchen unattended for even a minute, he’s grabbing raw meat out of the oven or out of the frying pan. When dinners done, you have to put it in the cabinets and then it’s not safe. He’ll grab the broom and knock it in the floor to eat it. He’ll have a plate full and does that. He won’t eat his food, but will steal the other kids food right out of their hands. He’s violent. He goes into fits of rage and beats the crap out of everybody. I have to send the other kids to another room because he hurts them if I don’t. He beats his head on walls, on the floor, on us. He hits, he pinches, he bites. He’s just a horrible kid. I can’t get my sister to do anything with him. She absolutly refuses to see the fact that he needs to be put into an institution for a little while. Not forever, but long enough for them to learn how to teach him and then teach us. I’m to my wit’s end with him. We have tryed routines. We have tryed walking with him, thinking maybe that will calm him down. Nothing works. We don’t know how to help him. I think she needs to let somebody else step in and teach us. She won’t try to find counseling for him and her. She won’t do anything and I can’t do it by myself. My biggest fear is that state is gonna step in and she’s not gonna have a choice in the matter and he’ll be forced to stay in an institution forever. The school and his doctor have already tryed to get her to consider it. It’s only a matter of time before they see the situation is not improving and they call the authorities in. It wouldn’t be that hard for them to prove her unfit. She doesn’t care. At this point, he is a danger to himself and those around him, especially the other kids. I can’t count how many bruises my daughters have received from him. You have no warning. One minute he’s fine, the next he’s attacking everybody. He’s just hateful. Maybe it’s not that I can’t stand him as much as it is, he frusturates me. I don’t know. I would never hurt him, but he makes me want to whip his tail most days. And I’m not one of those people who believe in spankings. I don’t hit him, but it takes everything I have not to. Am I a horrible person for allowing myself to get so aggravated with him or would other people in my shoes also. I just wish she would get him some kind of help. Please if you have any insight on how to get his behavior under control or you know of a way to make her do what’s best for him, let me know. I just don’t know what else to do. He needs more than we know how to give him. At this point, his own momma can’t stand him and that’s not right. It’s not his fault, but it is so hard to remember that when he’s acting the way that he acts. I also want to know if I should seek counseling for my frustration with him. There really are days, I just can not stand to be around him. Even when he’s being semi-good, he’s still screaming at the top of his lungs just because he can. I hate to even see him somedays. I feel horrible for that, but I can’t change it. So please help with anything that you may know. Thank you very much in adavance. And please don’t think I’m exaggerating. If anything, I left out some things. Am I overreacting? Would everybody else have more patience with him? I don’t know. I’m just trying to figure out, is he really that bad or do I need to seek help. Thank you again. I look forward to hearing your advice.
Coping with a child with disability is extremely difficult. He can’t be held responsible for his actions, but his mum can, and should. It’s to be expected that there are mishaps - his family can’t be perfect and in control all of the time, you wouldn’t expect that even with a regular kid - but there needs to be more effort made to ensure that he doesn’t hurt the other children.
Now, it’s tough being the mother of a child with special needs, and maybe your sister has issues of her own going on. She may be feeling burnt out, she may have decided to just give up. You should talk to her, again, and firmly let her know that something needs to change. Offer to help her look at options - carers, clinics, hospitals. Make sure she knows that you care for her and your nephew - and that’s why you need to insist on getting more help for them. If she doesn’t address the situation, then it can’t get any better. If she still refuses, then perhaps you should go ahead and find someone with the authority to intervene.
I don’t think you’re a horrible person - I think if you were horrible, you wouldn’t feel so guilty about being so frustrated and annoyed. Just remember to hate the condition, and not the boy, especially if he isn’t receiving the help that he needs.
If you need help, personally, to deal with this, and you’re in a position to do so, then definitely seek out a counsellor. Your sister might need to do the same.
Good luck to you all.
| Dec 28, 2009
Send him away.
crazykidxd | Dec 28, 2009
How old is he?And just lock up all the food so he cannot get to it.Try to get a gate and keep him confined to an area in the house that he won’t do damage.My old friend did it to her son in the past and it worked.
stormwatcher | Dec 28, 2009
i would defs get a proffessional in to teach u and ur sister how to deal with him… my best friend in autistic and also has torrets adn i know he is on medication everydaii for it.. so that might also be a step u need to take..
councilling for u might also be a good idea.. or excersize to get rid of ur anger
Belle A | Dec 28, 2009
you are not a terrible person, or even an unfeeling person.
you are a person pushed past your limit, a lot.
see if there is a help group for families of autistic children.
some of them will let you share your feelings ( not all of them.)
nickipettis | Dec 28, 2009
well done. you seem to be one of the most patient people I have ever seen. if that was me I would have beaten the crap out of him, as I can hardly deal with my perfectly normal cousins. you shouldn’t have to look after him all the time, any you probably need a break. his mother should deal-she commited to having a child and if that child has disabilities she should deal with them. not everyone has a healthy child and if she was dumb enough to think she wouldn’t and other people would, then maybe you need to leave him in her care for a full 24 hours. it’ll be hard, but he’s not your kid and other children are suffering. give yourself break.
Popp W | Dec 28, 2009
We watched it in Government class. I’ll be sure to watch it. Ty.